I got some counseling last year. I figured it was high time, since I had basically hit my quarter-life crisis. And while not every moment was exactly useful, there were two thoughts that have stuck with me until now: First: I was living under others' expectations - friends, family, especially my church family. This resulted in me not making any choices for me, or not feeling like I was in control. I was constantly doing things because others wanted me to do them. It's amazing how tiring that gets. The other thought was a random thing that popped in my head while we were discussing how I was going to balance the whole gay/LDS thing. We were discussing laws, and how I was going to deal with these spiritual laws that I felt like I still believed in to some extent, but I didn't know how to accept them. As I recall, Mr. Counselor Man mentioned how it can seem impossible to accept these laws that feel so unchangeable. The example he gave was, "It's like
Little by little figuring out the next step.